A kwanakin nan, da alama duk wanda ke da ɗan karkata zuwa ga wani abu yana zubar da kalmomin “kink” da “tashi.”
"Tabbas ina da ice cream kink," wasu na iya cewa bayan sun shiga cikin kayan zaki na baya-baya.
Abin da ya sa muka haɗu da wannan jagorar ma'anar kinks da fetishes. A ƙasa, karanta don bayanin abin da kink yake da abin da tayi - da kuma fahimtar yadda za a gano yiwuwar kinks da fetishes.
Kink shine duk wani abu da duka biyun suka wuce iyakokin abin da al'umma ke la'akari da jima'i na "al'ada" kuma yana tayar da sha'awar jima'i.
Domin abin da ya ƙunshi kink ya dogara da ko yanayin zamantakewar ku na al'ada ne ko a'a, ya dogara sosai akan abubuwa daban-daban, ciki har da:
Don haka, alal misali, wanda ya fi sauraron kiɗan ƙasa (ba tare da haɗa da magana mai yawa ba) zai iya ganin jin dadin jima'i na tsuliya kamar kink na tsuliya. A gefe guda, mutanen da waƙar da suka fi so shine "Truffle Butter" na iya kawai tunanin son tsuliya shine fifiko.
Wannan yana nufin idan wani ya ce yana da ban mamaki, dole ne ka tambayi takamaiman don sanin ma'anar hakan. Hakika, bai kamata ka tambayi ~ kowa ba ~ tambaya ta sirri.
"Mafi yawan kinks na yau da kullun shine ƙila mulki da biyayya, bauta da sadomasochism (wannan shine abin da haruffa a cikin BDSM ke tsayawa)," in ji ɗan ɗan fashin jima'i kuma masanin ilimin jima'i Kenneth Play, na al'ummar duniya mai kyau ta Hacienda Villa wanda ya kafa Hacienda Villa.
A cewar masanin ilimin jima'i Dr. Carol Sarauniya na kamfanin wasan wasan jima'i Good Vibrations, akwai wasu ma'anoni da aka yarda da su na tayin.
"A halin yanzu, masu koyar da jima'i da wuya su ayyana tayin a matsayin zama wani bangare na jima'i," in ji Sarauniya.
Alal misali, wanda ke da ɗan tayin ja zai iya (kuma ya ji daɗi!) don yin jima'i da wanda ba shi da ja, in ji ta.
Tyler Sparks, malamin batsa kuma wanda ya kafa Organic Loven, ɗaya daga cikin manyan shagunan shagunan shagunan shagunan shagunan yanar gizo na BIPOC, ya ce an kwatanta bambancin a wasu lokuta a matsayin bambanci tsakanin buƙatu (fetishes) da abubuwan da ake so (kinks).
"Wani ya gano cewa saka dogon sheqa a lokacin jima'i yana haifar da farin ciki," in ji ta. "Amma waɗanda suke buƙatar sanya takalma masu tsayi yayin jima'i don jin daɗin motsa jiki suna da tayin ƙafar ƙafa."
Wani lokaci wannan bambance-bambancen ana bayyana shi azaman bambanci tsakanin tashin hankali ta musamman ta wani aikin jima'i, wuri na yanki, ko tsauri (kink) da zama musamman tashe ta wani abu, abu, ko sashin jikin da ba na al'aura ba (tashi).
Idan kuna ƙoƙarin tantance ko wani abu na kink ne ko ɗan tayi, zaku iya yiwa kanku wasu tambayoyi:
Tabbas. Kila kuna da ƙwaƙƙwalwa da ƙwazo.ko duka biyun. Kuna iya samun wasu kwanaki waɗanda suke jin kamar kink, wasu kuma masu murkushewa.
"Bincika duka biyu ya haɗa da kasancewa mai buɗewa ga abubuwan batsa, kasancewa masu gaskiya game da abin da kuke ƙima da gaske da kuma gano juzu'i, wani lokacin ma'amala da kunyar zama daban-daban, da sanin yadda waɗannan ke taka rawa a rayuwar ku da jima'i tare da yiwuwar abokan tarayya a cikin hali," in ji ta.
Play ya ce, "Ga wasu mutane, ƴar tayinsu da tayinsu kaɗan ne a fili," in ji Play. "Idan, alal misali, a lokacin rani na matasa, ba za ku iya kawai ku kalli ƙafar kowa da ke sanye da takalma ba, kuma ku ji tsoro daga ganin ƙafafu, za ku gane cewa kuna son ƙafafu."
A halin yanzu, ga wasu, kink ko tayi na iya zama wani abu da suka gano ta hanyar binciken abubuwa, irin su batsa, fina-finai, ko sabon masoyi wanda ke nuna su ga sababbin abubuwa. Lokacin da kuke fuskantar sababbin abubuwa, za ku gano kowane irin abubuwa game da abin da kuke so kuma ba ku so, in ji shi.
Idan kana cikin zangon ƙarshe kuma kuna son ƙarin koyo game da quirks da fetishes, waɗannan shawarwari zasu taimaka.
"Akwai kima akan layi kyauta, wanda ake kira gwajin BDSM, wanda zai iya taimaka muku ƙarin koyo game da kinks da kuke sha'awar," in ji Sparks. "Yana da kyau mafari."
Sanya halaye daban-daban, tsare-tsare, wurare, da abubuwa cikin jerin ginshiƙai bisa la'akari da sha'awar ƙoƙarin ku, kuma jerin "e-no-wataƙila" na iya taimaka muku gano abubuwan da ke faranta jikin ku.
Akwai jerin Ee-A'a-Wataƙila iri-iri akan Intanet. Amma don gano abubuwan da kuke so, yana da kyau ku sami ɗaya tare da banki a ƙasa, kamar wannan daga Bex Talks.
"Kamar yadda yake tare da kowane ɗan adam, abubuwa da yanayi suna canzawa," in ji ta.Amma yayin da muka kara fahimtar jikinmu da sha'awarmu, saboda mutane a dabi'ance suna da sha'awar, muna neman kwarewa daban-daban."
Daga batsa na bidiyo zuwa rubuce-rubucen batsa, dandalin kan layi don dandalin tattaunawa, intanit yana cike da dama don ƙarin koyo game da tayin da tayi.
"Ziyarci gidan yanar gizon batsa, irin su Royal Fetish Films, don ba ku damar ganin kink ɗinku a aikace," in ji ta.A can za ku sami mutane da yawa kamar ku waɗanda ke bincike, gogewa da / ko jagoranci. "
Ta hanyar waɗannan rukunin yanar gizon, in ji ta, za ku iya karanta labarunsu kuma ƙila ku yi wa masu gudanar da ƙungiyar tambaya ɗaya ko biyu game da abubuwan da kuke da su ko kuma yadda suka gano nasu.
Rataya a cikin yankin jin daɗin ku da yankin rashin jin daɗi na iya taimaka muku ƙarin fahimtar jima'i da jima'i, in ji Sparks.
"Sanin iyakokin ku zai iya taimaka muku gano abin da kuke sha'awar bincika ba menene ba," in ji ta.
Daidai abin da za ku koya zai bambanta dangane da takamaiman ~ abubuwan da kuke sha'awar bincike. Amma duk da haka: ya zama dole.
"Ilimi dole ne ya rigaya kwarewa, musamman ma idan ya zo ga duk wani abu da ya shafi wasan motsa jiki mai tsanani, zafi, kamewa, ko wani abu da za a iya la'akari da shi mai haɗari," in ji Play. Wannan ilimin yana da mahimmanci don kiyaye ku da abokin tarayya lafiya ta jiki, da hankali, da kuma ruhaniya.
Don irin wannan koyo, yana ba da shawarar ɗaukar ƙwararrun jima'i-misali, mai koyar da jima'i, likitan jima'i, ɗan ɗan fashin jima'i, ko ma'aikacin jima'i.
Sarauniyar ta jaddada cewa ma'aikatan jima'i za su sami kwarewa mai yawa a bangarorin biyu, wanda zai sa su zama kyakkyawan zabi don bincika yiwuwar kinks ko fetishes a karon farko.
"Masu amfani na iya samun ƙarin bayani game da kinks daban-daban, kuma yana da sauƙin yin magana da tattaunawa da su, kuma yana iya zama kamar saitin lab don bincika jima'i," in ji ta.
Idan kun fi son yin bincike tare da abokin tarayya, ta ce yana da mahimmanci don zaɓar abokin tarayya da kuke jin daɗin magana da shi - kuma akasin haka.
"Ko da kafin ku shiga wasanni daban-daban na jima'i da wani, za ku iya koyan yadda suke jin daɗin jima'i, yadda yake da sauƙi don sadarwa tare da su, da kuma ko sun bayyana hukunci game da zaɓin jima'i na wasu don sanin ko suna da kyau," in ji ta.
Zai fi kyau a zaɓi abokin tarayya wanda gabaɗaya yana jin daɗin yaren jikin ku (kuma akasin haka) kuma yana son yin aiki tare da ku akan binciken da ake buƙata.
A ƙarshen rana, ba kome ba idan abubuwan da kuke sha'awar jima'i suna classified a matsayin kinky, fetish, ko babu!
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