Mazuva ano, zvinoita sokuti munhu wose ane kakurerekera kuchinhu chero chipi zvacho ari kusiya mashoko okuti “kink” uye “svikiro.”
"Chokwadi ndine ice cream kink," vamwe vangataura mushure mekudya-kumashure-kumashure dheridhe remukaka.
Ndosaka taisa pamwechete ino inotsanangura gwara rema kinks nemasvikiro.Pazasi, verenga kuti uwane tsananguro yekuti chii chinonzi kink uye kuti chii chinonzi n'anga-uye ruzivo rwekuongorora zvingangoitika.
A kink chinhu chipi nechipi chinodarika miganhu yakajairwa iyo nzanga inoona se "zvakajairika" zvepabonde uye iri kumutsa chishuwo chepabonde.
Nekuti chii chinoumba kink zvinoenderana nekuti yako nharaunda yakajairika kana kwete, inotsamira zvakanyanya pane zvakasiyana siyana, kusanganisira:
Saka, semuenzaniso, mumwe munhu anonyanya kuteerera mimhanzi yenyika (pasina kusanganisira hurukuro yakawandisa yekumashure) angaona kufara kwavo kwepabonde rekunobuda nako sechidzitiro.Kune rumwe rutivi, vanhu vane rwiyo rwavanoda "Truffle Butter" vanogona kungofunga kuti rudo rwavo rwekumashure ndicho chido.
Zvinoreva kuti kana mumwe munhu akati anoshamisa, unofanira kubvunza zvakanangana nazvo kuti uzive zvazvinoreva.Ehe, haufanirwe kubvunza ~munhu wese ~ mubvunzo wega.
"Makinki anonyanyozivikanwa anogona kunge ari kutonga uye kuzviisa pasi, husungwa uye kusaremekedza (ndizvo zvinomiririrwa nemabhii eBDSM)," anodaro mutambi wezvepabonde uye mudzidzisi wezvepabonde Kenneth Play, wesangano repasi rose rinokurudzira zvepabonde muvambi weHacienda Villa.
Maererano nenyanzvi dzezvepabonde Dr. Carol Queen wekambani yezvitoyi zvebonde Good Vibrations, kune dzimwe tsanangudzo dzinogamuchirwa dzemashiripiti.
"Parizvino, vadzidzisi vezvepabonde havawanzo tsanangura masvikiro seanofanira kunge ari chikamu chezvepabonde," akadaro Queen.
Somuenzaniso, mumwe munhu ane svikiro rine musoro mutsvuku anogona kukwanisa (uye kunakidzwa!) kuita bonde nemunhu asina misoro mitsvuku, akadaro.” Asi mitsvuku ichiri yakakosha uye inotibvumira kuona zvinonyadzisira nenzira ine simba rakawanda kupfuura payakanga isipo,” akatsanangura kudaro.
Tyler Sparks, mudzidzisi wezvinonyadzisira uye muvambi weOrganic Loven, imwe yezvitoro zvikuru zveBIPOC-yepamhepo zvehukama, anoti mutsauko unombotsanangurwa semusiyano uripo pakati pezvido (fetishes) uye zvaunofarira (kinks).
“Mumwe munhu akaona kuti kupfeka zvitsitsinho zvirefu panguva yebonde kunomutsa manyukunyuku,” akadaro.” Asi vaya vanoda kupfeka zvitsitsinho zvepamusoro panguva yebonde kuti vanzwe kusvirwa vane mazango echitsitsinho chakakwirira.
Dzimwe nguva mutsauko uyu unotsanangurwa semusiyano uripo pakati pekunyandurwa nechiito chepabonde, nzvimbo, kana dynamic (kink) uye kunyanya kumutswa nechinhu, zvinhu, kana isiri yenhengo yemuviri (fetish).
Kana uri kuedza kuona kana chimwe chinhu chiri kink kana fetish, unogona kuzvibvunza mimwe mibvunzo:
Zvechokwadi.Unogona kunge une quirk uye fetish.kana zvose.Unogona kuva nemamwe mazuva anonzwa sekink, uye mamwe apwanya.
"Kuongorora zvese kunosanganisira kuvhurika kune zvinonyadzisira adventures, kutendeseka pane zvaunonyanya kukoshesa uye kuwana shanduko, dzimwe nguva kubata nekunyadziswa kwekuve wakasiyana, uye kuziva kuti izvi zvinotamba sei muhupenyu hwako uye zvepabonde nevanogona kuita basa rekufambidzana," akadaro.
“Kune vamwe vanhu, masvikiro avo nen’anga zviri pachena,” Mutambi akadaro.” Kana, semuenzaniso, muzhizha revachiri kuyaruka, unokwanisa kuita kunze kwokungotarisa tsoka dzemunhu wose akapfeka hwashu, uye wonzwa runyanga kubva pakuona kwetsoka, unongoerekana waona kuti unoda tsoka.”
Zvichakadaro, kune vamwe, kink kana fetish inogona kuva chimwe chinhu chavanoona kuburikidza nekuongorora zvinhu, zvakadai sezvinonyadzisira, mafirimu, kana mudiwa mutsva anovafumura kune zvinhu zvitsva.Paunenge uchiona zvinhu zvitsva, unoona marudzi ose ezvinhu pamusoro pezvaunoda nezvausingadi, akadaro.
Kana iwe uri mumusasa wekupedzisira uye uchida kudzidza zvakawanda nezve quirks ako uye fetishes, aya matipi achabatsira.
"Pane ongororo yemahara yepamhepo, inonzi BDSM bvunzo, inogona kukubatsira kuti udzidze zvakawanda nezve kinks yauri kufarira," Sparks anodaro.
Isa maitiro akasiyana-siyana, marongero, nzvimbo, uye zvinhu murunyoro rwemakoramu zvichienderana nekufarira kwako kuedza, uye runyoro rwe "hongu-kwete-pamwe" runogona kukubatsira kuona zvinhu zvinofadza muviri wako.
Kune akasiyana-siyana Hongu-Kwete-Pamwe mazita paInternet.Asi kuti uzive zvauri kuita uye masvikiro, zviri nani kuve neimwe ine bhangi pazasi, senge iri kubva kuBex Talks.
“Sezvinoita chero ruzivo rwevanhu, zvinhu nemamiriro ezvinhu zvinochinja,” akadaro.” Dzimwe nguva zvinhu zvinokufadza mumakore ako ekuma20 hazvifadzi zvakafanana.Asi sezvatinowedzera kuziva miviri yedu nezvishuvo, nokuti vanhu vanoda kuziva nenzira yomuzvarirwo, tinotsvaka zvinoitika zvakasiyana.”
Kubva pavhidhiyo zvinonyadzisira kusvika pazvinonyadzisira zvakanyorwa, maforamu epamhepo ekutaura mapuratifomu, internet izere nemikana yekudzidza zvakawanda nezven'anga nemasvikiro ako.
"Shanyira nzvimbo inonyadzisira, yakadai seRoyal Fetish Films, kuti ikupe mukana wekuona kink yako mukuita," anodaro.Ikoko uchawana vanhu vazhinji vakangofanana newe vari kuongorora, vane ruzivo uye/kana kudzidziswa.”
Kuburikidza neaya masaiti, anodaro, unozogona kuverenga nyaya dzavo uye pamwe ungabvunza mutungamiriri weboka mubvunzo kana maviri nezve yako quirks kana kuti vakawana yavo sei.
Kurembera munzvimbo yako yekunyaradza uye nzvimbo yekusagadzikana kunogona kukubatsira kuti unzwisise zviri nani hunhu hwako uye masvikiro, anodaro Sparks.
"Kuziva miganhu yako pachako kunogona kukubatsira kuona zvaunoda kuongorora kwete izvo," anodaro.
Izvo chaizvo zvauchadzidza zvinosiyana zvichienderana nezvakananga ~ zvinhu zvauri kufarira kuongorora.Asi zvakadaro: zvinofanirwa.
"Dzidzo inofanira kutangira ruzivo rwako, kunyanya kana iri kuuya kuchinhu chipi nechipi chinobatanidza kutamba nesimba kwakasimba, kurwadziwa, kuzvidzora, kana chimwe chinhu chinganzi chine ngozi," Play akadaro.Iyi dzidzo inokosha kuti iwe nemumwe wako muchengetedze mumuviri, mupfungwa, uye mumudzimu.
Pakudzidza kwerudzi urwu, anokurudzira kuhaya nyanzvi yezvepabonde — semuenzaniso, mudzidzisi wezvepabonde, nyanzvi yezvepabonde, anobhinya, kana anoita zvebonde.
Mambokadzi anosimbisa kuti vanoita zvepabonde vachave neruzivo rwakakura munzvimbo mbiri idzi, zvichivaita sarudzo yakanaka yekuongorora zvingangoita kinks kana masvikiro kekutanga.
"Pros inogona kunge iine ruzivo rwakawanda pamusoro peakasiyana kinks, uye zviri nyore kutaura uye kutaurirana, uye zvinogona kuita senge nzvimbo yekuongorora bonde rako," anodaro.
Kana ukada kuongorora nemumwe wako, anoti zvakakosha kuti usarudze mudiwa waunonzwa wakasununguka kutaura naye — uye zvakasiyana.
"Kunyangwe usati wapinda mumhando dzakasiyana dzemitambo yebonde nemumwe munhu, unogona kudzidza kugadzikana kwavanoita pabonde, kuti zviri nyore sei kutaura naye, uye kana ivo vachitaura mitongo pamusoro pesarudzo dzevamwe dzepabonde kuti vaone kana vari Izvo zvinonyatsoenderana," akadaro.
Zvakanaka kusarudza mudiwa anowanzo gadzikana nemutauro wako wemuviri (uye zvakasiyana) uye anoda kushanda newe patsvakiridzo inodiwa.
Pakupera kwezuva, hazvina basa kuti zvinhu zvauri kufarira pabonde zvakanzi kinky, fetish, kana kwete!
Gabrielle Kassel muNew York-based sex and wellness munyori uye CrossFit Level 1 mudzidzisi.Akave munhu wemangwanani, anoedza zvinopfuura 200 vibrators, kudya, kunwa, kusveta nemarasha - zvose muzita rekunyora.Munguva yake yekusununguka, anogona kuverenga mabhuku ekuzvibatsira uye zvinyorwa zverudo, bhenji press kana pole dance.Mutevere pa Instagram.
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